Tuesday, June 17

Ready to Go HOME!

I am just so ready to go home. I knew I should have told Judy I preferred things to go the way they would have if Kale hadn't left. She was supposed to fly out, then after a few days fly back with the three older girls. Then we were going to drive there with Delilah after two weeks. Well she didn't think I could drive with Delilah by myself, so she suggested that she fly out as planned, cancel their tickets, and drive with me there and back. I knew it was a bad idea, but I didn't want to hurt her feelings by saying "Uh, yeah, I don't want to be with you for an entire month." But it's true, I used to be able to, but since she spent the month with us last summer we just can't take it. Kale said he doesn't know how he lived with her for so many years. I told him it's just because she is getting older. It seems the older she gets the more of a martyr she becomes.

Here are my biggest complaints (all kept inside or voiced only to Kale or Rosy):

1) I was told I would essentially get the month off from waking up with Delilah, it lasted only one night. While I don't expect them to take care of my kids, I don't appreciate being told something and then having it taken back.
2) Listening to her on the phone, in front of me, complaining about what a burden it is to have the kids and I here. How much she has to do everyday and that the kids are wild banshees that she is trying to tame. Yeah RIGHT! The banshees thing is true because she stops me and always has stepped in and overruled me. Normally Kale puts a stop to it immediately, but he is not here. I don't like starting fights with family so I grit my teeth and bear it. I am not a big fan of people talking bad about others Right.In.Front.Of.Them! She should be decent enough to talk about us behind our backs like normal families, I do it about her.
3) When she says she is going to for example give the baby a bath, then starts doing something else. She will have said "You feed Delilah and I will bathe her" so I feed her. Delilah is now covered in food and she is no where near coming to give her a bath. So I freaking do it myself, it's quicker and less aggravation.

I honestly thought coming here would be a break. So far the only break I am getting is from housework and some of the cooking. I am just so ready to go home. I miss MY family who do as they say they will and don't make promises they don't plan on keeping. I also never thought I'd miss my husband this much, it's very hard being apart.

4 comments:

Jennifer said...

suckity suck suck. :(

i'm sorry girl. that has to suck. the worst part is that you are miserable, and you can't even really say anything about it to her... BUT she feels the need to discuss it with who ever on the phone, in front of you... which has got to hurt your feelings some and also make you feel slightly uncomfortable. ugh!!

on top of all this drama and unbroken promises which would annoy the shit out of me too, if you don't want to do it... fine, then don't even say you will. but on top of all this you are away from Kale... and he is the one that balances this all out with you and Judy and also you are missing him just b/c. which is totally normal.

I'm sorry things aren't going well for you right now. i hope that you maybe do get to go home earlier than planned and that things get a little better. i know w/ missing Kale that won't get better till he comes home... but maybe being in your own home, where things are good and familiar and you are with your family it will be a little bit easier to handle. i know i would be missing bryan like crazy and it would be even worse if i were miserable and cranky and stuck with his family away from my own home. :(

i'm here as a virtual (sp?) shoulder to lean on... ANY time. :)

lots of hugs being sent your way!!

(((((((HUGS)))))))))

xoxoxo

Memarie Lane said...

If it helps at all, I lived with my MIL for TWO YEARS. Of course that was before we had kids, which would have made it a billion times worse. You can say she means well all you want, doesn't make it any easier. I am with you in pain.

KiKi said...

I quake in my boots at the thought of spending even a week with my MIL. Somehow my workload, stress level, and fatigue always increase when she's around - which is ironic because she really is a great person.

It sounds like you and your MIL are overdue for a heart to heart. You might want to take a few days to think about what things you want to discuss and pick only the "big stuff" because otherwise you might find yourself exploding at some point.

QuicheBaby said...

You got to love it. I am sorry you can't just leave and go home. I know you are tempted. I hope the time passes quickly.