3rd Grade Girls can be B*tches

There is a war going on in Lilly's 3rd grade class. The teacher has let things go too far before trying to control things. Before I tell you the current issue I will tell you the back story.

In the beginning of this year a problem started and wasn't stopped soon enough. Not that I really think it could have been stopped, but it could have been better handled. The are two Alpha females in the classroom, S & V. S is best friends with P and V is best friends with Lilly. It all started when S brought her diary to school and it "accidentally" fell into the wrong hands. Then it was read aloud and in it were her deep secrets of her dislike of V. So thus the war began. The remaining girls in the class were forced to choose sides. When Lilly came home complaining of S and her meaness we at first blew it off. Then she complained some more, so we talked to the teacher. Then V's mom talked to the teacher, because even though Lilly and V are not friends with S & P they are not mean to them. However, S & P can be very cruel. Which brings me to the current issue.

Back in January S had a b-day party. Now there is a policy in our school that if you bring invites to the classroom you must bring one for everybody, as not to hurt anyones feelings. Like the policy or not, it is still a policy and should be followed as law. So S brings invites for everyone in the class but V, a big FU to her. My daughter being diplomatic and nieve says to me "S and I are friends now and V doesn't mind if I go." I am glad V is mature enough to not say things like "If you go I am not your friend!" but I still think my daughter should stick up for her friend. I wrestled over what to do and cursed the bitch of a mom who would allow their child to do this KNOWING full well what the school and classroom policy is. I ultimately decided to take the decision out of my daughters hands and took the girls to Build a Bear the day of the party. We already had the gift cards from Santa and that way she could do something fun without hurting her friends feelings. Honestly I really didn't want her to go to a party for such a vindictive little brat.

I thought this was all over then it happens again this week. P is having a party and gives out invites to all but three children in the class, Lilly, V, and D (a friend of the girls who I think may turn out to be gay someday, not that there's anything wrong with that). I find out first via e-mail from the teacher "reminding" the parents of the policy and then when Lilly gets home. Now when Lilly tells it she says P told her she just "forgot" Lillys invite. And on Friday she did give her an invite, but V was still left out. Vs mom is the one who complained to the teacher in the first place and I believe she has every right to be livid. If the parents cannot be responsible enough to make sure the policy is followed, then the teacher should check to make sure that anyone with invites has enough for everyone or send them home with them.

Lilly will not be attending this party either. Her friend was even more crushed this time and even though Lilly would go (she is so nieve) I will not be letting her. This time the reason is her sisters b-day party is the same day, even though they are at different times. And we are inviting V to join us.